What It's Actually Like To Work With Me As Your Therapist

Finding a therapist is weird.

You're essentially scrolling through the internet trying to decide which stranger you're willing to ugly cry in front of.

No pressure.

Most therapist websites promise the same thing: compassionate, supportive, evidence-based care. And while all of those things matter...they don't tell you what it's actually feels like to sit in the room with someone.

So here's the honest version.

I'm probably not the right therapist if you're looking for someone to nod politely for 50 minutes and send you home with a breathing exercise every week.

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A lot of people walk into my office convinced they're doing healing wrong.

They apologize for crying. They apologize for not crying. They tell me they're "overreacting." They insist other people have it worse.

Somewhere along the way, they learned that emotions are acceptable, as long as they're efficient, quiet, and wrapped up in a reasonable amount of time.

We're not doing that here.

You don't have to convince me your pain is valid. You don't have to perform being the "good client." You don't have to show me how self-aware you are before you're allowed to struggle.

You just get to show up. Messy counts.

We Go Deeper Than "Just Think Positive"

If positive thinking fixed trauma, grief, infertility, relationship wounds, or anxiety...therapy wouldn't exist.

My work isn't about pretending everything happens for a reason.

It's about understanding why your nervous system reacts the way it does, why certain relationships leave you exhausted, why the same patterns keep showing up, and why your brain insists on pulling the fire alarm even when nothing is technically on fire.

We'll absolutely build coping skills.

But we'll also figure out what you're coping *with.*

There's a difference.

I Don't Rush Grief

Or healing. Or decisions. Or becoming whoever you're supposed to be next.

Our culture is obsessed with getting over things. I don't think most people need to "move on."

I think they need a place where they can finally stop pretending they're fine.

Whether you're grieving a person, a pregnancy, a relationship, a version of yourself, or a life that never happened, we'll make room for all of it.

Because grief doesn't care about timelines. It barely respects calendars.

We Can Laugh Here Too

Contrary to popular belief, therapy isn't 50 uninterrupted minutes of staring into the emotional abyss.

Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes your nervous system needs a break.

Sometimes the most healing thing you can do is acknowledge that life is objectively a little ridiculous.

Dark humor has a way of reminding us that pain isn't the whole story.

Two things can be true at the same time. Something can be heartbreaking...and somehow also absurd.

Who I Work Best With

You might feel at home here if you:

Have been the strong one for so long that you don't know how to stop.

Are navigating grief, infertility, pregnancy loss, relationship struggles, or a major life transition.

*Want more than surface-level coping skills.

*Tend to overthink everything and still somehow blame yourself.

*Feel like your life looks nothing like the one you thought you'd have by now.

Are exhausted from trying to make everyone else comfortable with your feelings.

What Sessions Actually Feel Like

My clients often tell me therapy feels like finally being able to exhale.

There's honesty. There's curiosity.

Sometimes there's swearing. Sometimes there's silence.

Sometimes there's laughter immediately followed by crying, because apparently our brains enjoy emotional plot twists.

You'll never be pushed to "just stay positive." You'll never be shamed for where you are. You'll never have to earn compassion by proving your pain is bad enough.

My job isn't to tell you who you should become. It's to help you understand who you already are underneath the survival strategies.

One Last Thing

You don't have to wait until your life completely falls apart before starting therapy. You don't need a perfectly organized explanation. You don't even need to know where to start.

Honestly, most people show up saying some version of, "I don't really know why I'm here...I just know something isn't working anymore." That's enough.

If you're looking for therapy that's thoughtful, honest, and grounded in both clinical expertise and genuine human connection—with room for real conversations, complicated emotions, and the occasional dark joke—we might be a really good fit.

Life rarely goes according to plan.

Thankfully, therapy doesn't have to either.